“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Have you ever wondered if you have found, or will ever find your one true soul mate in the world? Is there really such a thing? My experiences and observations in life have shown me that if indeed soulmates exist, there are far more than just one that interact with us in different ways, at different times, for different reasons, and for different lengths of time. Your mother or father might be one of your soul mates, in the sense that one or both of them may have been related to you in some way for many lifetimes.
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Astrology often helps point out both the compatibility of two or more people, and whether or not they have what may be called the “soulmate connection.” Usually, two people in a soulmate relationship share a number of potent planetary contacts, particularly conjunctions between their luminaries and personal planets such as the Sun, Moon, Venus, and Mars. A few other telling factors include strong North Node connections, strong midpoints, aspects to one another’s Vertex points, and strong Pluto connections.
Let’s take a brief look at the way a soulmate is generally defined these days. On Wikipedia (internet dictionary), a soul mate is described as “a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one’s soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join. However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations.”
Soulmates often reflect to us aspects of ourselves that we have not fully embraced, both positive and negative. Since it is easier to embrace a beautiful loved one with all their foibles than to love ourselves unconditionally, many of us are given the chance to work out a bulk of our issues through relationships where our own problems are merely reflected back to us. Of course very few people realize when they are projecting their own problems onto others, but it’s easier to do that than to recognize where they’re stemming from.
Most people who even use the term, are interested in soul mates of a romantic nature. There’s nothing wrong with this, in fact the desire to become more aligned with someone who is an appropriate and equal partner shows that an inner refinement of human nature has taken place. They and you may want to know about their/your existing partners, or any new ones they/you shall meet. They want to know the depth of their connections, and sometimes whether or not there are ways to manipulate the connections. That’s when the trouble often begins.
What usually happens is that we are subconsciously, and even unconsciously drawn to certain people and partners who reflect back to us the lessons that we need to learn in life. We’re seduced by shiny wrappers on the outside (of the person and/or the relationship itself), and then shun away from what we find inside.
People say that they want to meet their soulmate and be together always, but do they really want to face all the responsibility that would entail? Contrary to popular ideas, a soulmate connection on Earth is not one where we float on Cloud 9, hand-in-hand with a romantic partner throughout life. The number nine may have relevance however, as it is the number associated with past life karma and completion. If you have come together with a soul mate or twin flame it is likely that you both have some big work to do together, not only for yourselves but possibly for many people. It may come in the form of a child, or a project that springs from your union and that somehow bestows blessings to the world. It could also be that you mainly came together to heal yourselves, which in turn contributes to the healing of the consciousness of life on this planet.
Below is a brief list of what the planets possibly mean when they are strongly aspected between two people. This is a rather one-sided look at what a relationship reading actually entails, but it may give you a general understanding of how it works.
Sun – The person whose Sun touches another’s planet “lights”, supports, and inspires the other in some way. If the Sun person is not serving as the beacon, he/she may either be receiving similar support or a major challenge from the other. Positively, the Sun person brings awareness. Negatively, they may seek control.
Moon – The Moon person often nurtures the other, helps him or her feel safe. It indicates familiarity, often past life connections. Conversely, the Moon person may feel smothered, dominated, or fearful of what the other does, as the Moon tends to heighten emotions.
Mercury – Mercury stimulates the mind and intellect. If one person’s Mercury contacts another’s planet or vice versa, he is likely to stimulate lots of conversation (the topic is a whole ‘nother subject, no pun intended! That depends on the signs & houses that Mercury occupies.)
Venus – The Venus person shows the other how to lighten up, live a little, let go and have fun. This planet’s about pleasure, love, and romance, among other things, so it does not like to be hampered by anything too serious (such as Saturn…which might work for long-term commitments)
Mars – Mars brings passion but doesn’t specify what direction it will take. The Mars person stirs things up. They might anger the other person whose planet is being affected, sexually arouse them, propel them toward some necessary action, or perhaps all of the above.
Jupiter – The person who is “Jupiter” to the other gives generously in the area where the contact is being made. The signs, houses, and other aspects would indicate if this giving would be material, spiritual, wanted, unwanted, or over-the-top. Often means you’re “going places” together.
Saturn – A Saturn connection has both a familiar and a “karmic” feel about it – the kind that many people try to avoid once they begin to sniff it out. Like an insect caught in a web, it’s often too late to back out by the time one catches onto the situation. The Saturn person is often either the teacher, or the one that the other runs from.
Uranus – Uranus brings excitement to a relationship, but is unstable and unpredictable. The person whose Uranus strongly impacts another’s personal planet acts as the rebel rouser, either just for the heck of it, or toward some humanitarian cause that both people share an interest in.
Neptune – Ahh, a wonderfully romantic connection may appear on the horizon when Neptune is near. But is this fancy or reality? The Neptune person is often very attractive to the other, as well as chooses to see the best in the other. The only pitfall is when neither person sees clearly. Otherwise it can be a very spiritually uplifting connection.
Pluto – When Pluto is prominently involved in a relationship, this is no small matter. The planet may have been demoted from its status, but Pluto’s influences are powerful and often indicate deep soul patterns and connections. The person who represents Pluto to the other has a great deal of sway and influence and must use it wisely or it can backfire.
It does sometimes happen that two of the people’s same planets are interacting strongly with each other. An example would be Venus conjunct Venus – Venus’s very own favorite aspect of all! If this isn’t the sign of a soulmate connection, at the very least it’s the sign of a very pleasurable and promising one, on some levels.
My last comment on this complex subject is a question: If we all came from the same Source…even if we came a long ways from there, and have since then fragmented into billions of unique shapes, sizes, and levels of consciousness, inhabiting whatever planets and dimensions, wouldn’t that basically mean that we are all Soul Mates?
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