Grief and checking in with a Chiron transit

Sun sGrief is one of the most difficult and painful emotions that any of us must move through at some point in life. It can be caused by a death, divorce, loss or betrayal so deep that it stuns the soul. The sensation of grief can feel heavy and dark or be shocking and short-lived. It can last for weeks, months, years or even a lifetime, with only brief intervals of relief.
Grief is something that many people appear to be experiencing at this time, each for different reasons although there is a collective theme of grieving for all that has been destroyed and lost in recent weeks. There is no one person or thing to blame for all of it. It is what it is, and it is better to acknowledge than to gloss over and suppress it. I have also been navigating through intense grief for quite some time for reasons that I have not been ready to articulate. There have been many moments of respite, gratitude and joy that remind me of the miracle of life, no matter how bittersweet or even awful it may sometimes seem to be. As for the lack of recent blog posts, I have been on a bit of a hiatus due to the need to tend to my life’s many recent (positive and progressive) transitions.
With the Sun moving into conjunction with the comet Chiron, now through the 15th many memories of loss, abandonment, sadness and humiliation may be rising to the surface. There is nothing wrong with reflecting on these types of memories or allowing the emotions to pass through as they may. There is the possibility to understand more clearly the mistakes of the past and to access the deeper wisdom and compassion that the sign of Pisces represents. The conjunction occurs at 24 degrees of Pisces, including the goddess asteroid Pallas Athene who represents wisdom, artistic expression, political awareness and activism. A square to Saturn in Sagittarius on the 17th is pushing buttons further and pointing out areas that still need clarification, healing and improvement.
The season of spring brings with it a certain vibrancy, energy and many revelations to ponder and integrate well into the later part of the year. If during this process, the grief becomes too overwhelming, a dosage bottle of the Bach flower essence Star of Bethlehem could be calming and aid in the ability to cope. This is one of the five flower essences included in the well known formula “Rescue Remedy”, and it specifically addresses the emotions of sadness, grief and trauma whether they are recent or distant with lingering effects.
I am working on some major life upgrades but more astro & other info from me is soon to come. Thanks for staying tuned!

The Path

A few thoughts have been percolating in my mind since Inauguration Day, mostly pertaining to my own personal experiences but also relating to the whole. They are about healing and how worthwhile the journey is, no matter how broken and uninspired one may feel. None of this is meant as full-on truth but only a perspective.


Some issues take longer to heal and improve than others. At times the efforts seem futile and exhausting…

Do not give up the pursuit of wellness on all levels. Sometimes it’s hard as hell to continue working toward wellness and its maintenance when everything seems to be going against it. Keep working toward it. Hard work eventually pays off.

It takes discipline to quiet the storms of the ego enough to hear the voice of the soul. It is not force but inner recognition born out of an ability to pay close attention that can quiet those storms. Paradoxically, the shock of force can sometimes be the catalyst for growth.

Healing in an individual, relationship or a society does not occur through resistance but through consciousness.

Whether the greatest struggle is with health, finances or a combination of several things, that they can indeed be healed or improved should always be remembered (with the exception of terminal illness and certain other endings). Prayers and affirmations may help, but only when combined with actions that are aligned with them. When consistent effort is made toward general improvement and self-corrective behavior, the fulfillment of most needs and many desires becomes inevitable.

Be Yourself. The more of your true Self that you embody the less harm you bring to others and yourself, and the less others are able to harm you. There is nothing to prove to anybody when you are Being your Self. Pain that was once crippling gradually fades. That which would not budge suddenly flows. Doors that were once closed and locked open wide. Conflict that seemed endless either ends or softens and reveals deeper meaning, cooperation and love.

Deal with emotions head-on. Don’t save them for other people, places and things that have nothing to do with what is occurring now. Find appropriate outlets of expression. These could be through music, sports, martial arts or other methods. Face the hurt, fear, betrayal and anger as they arise but don’t spread them like wildfire as they can become so easily when unchecked. Just as importantly, acknowledge your own negativity and don’t act like it’s not there. Living a lie is a major cause of many diseases and much unhappiness.

Nothing will ever be completely perfect. There will always be imbalance here. That is part of the life-on-earth experience. Gratitude for what is going right in one’s life tends to make up for that which is apparently going wrong. Own your shortcomings and mistakes (meaning take responsibility for them) instead of projecting them onto others. Ultimately the shortcomings, flaws and mistakes of others and oneself are interconnected – one set of shortcomings cannot exist without the other. They play into each other.

To help oneself is to help others. To tend one’s own wounds and purify one’s own space is to prevent the sickness of one’s body and mind from being further distributed to those who are vulnerable. Most people are. Personal gain and happiness, when genuine, leads to assisting others in achieving the same.

The path of combined self-corrective work and integrity may frequently feel lonely. It is however its own reward, that no other person or thing out there can ever replace. It is the path of the realized Self.

Modern Rites of Passage

“And therefore, all of those for whom authentic transformation has deeply unseated their souls must, I believe, wrestle with the profound moral obligation to shout from the heart—perhaps quietly and gently, with tears of reluctance; perhaps with fierce fire and angry wisdom; perhaps with slow and careful analysis; perhaps by unshakable public example—but authentically always and absolutely carries a demand and duty: you must speak out, to the best of your ability, and shake the spiritual tree, and shine your headlights into the eyes of the complacent. You must let that radical realization rumble through your veins and rattle those around you.
Alas, if you fail to do so, you are betraying your own authenticity. You are hiding your true estate. You don’t want to upset others because you don’t want to upset your self. You are acting in bad faith, the taste of a bad infinity.”

– Ken Wilber

Rites of Passage are important to us whether or not we practice or believe in any religion. A rite is a celebration that can be simple or elaborate, solitary or shared in a group. What matters is how it supports each individual in transitioning from one phase of life to another.

Whatever calendar system one adheres to, there are changes in consciousness that are signaled at the beginning of each new year (or birth date). When such a change is truly honored in some way it tends to become much easier to adjust to than if it were ignored. When it comes to the Gregorian New Year for example, many people do not feel at all fresh and “new”. To the contrary, there is often a tired, withdrawn tone that does not indicate that it’s time to go full speed ahead. There are many reasons for this, some depending on which hemisphere of the Earth is under consideration. Nature provides the perfect examples for us in how to conduct a full-on Rite of Passage, complete with all the right colors, shapes, elements, scents and sounds. Originally, humans followed Her lead instead of seeking domination.


One of the things that modern man suffers from most is a lack of honor. We have collectively forgotten the honor of Self, of Earth, of Relationships, of Change. Without honoring life’s many transitions and simply glossing over them to get on to the next thing, one misses out on so much. No wonder that so many walk around without much of a sense of purpose, direction or passion in life. Low self-esteem, low energy and low vibrations permeate much of the modern landscape.

Major life changes are regulated instead of honored and everyone experiences the ramifications of denying the sacredness of Life and trashing it instead. Between Birth and Death there are several other important changes that once were heeded more closely in ancient civilizations. Seasonal rituals, initiations into adulthood, menstruation, marriage, motherhood or fatherhood, relocation, preparation for battle or self-defense, loss and healing through ceremony were all honored in some way.

There are obviously some very intimate life changes that are not necessarily the kind one would wish to let others in on and others are quite Universal. Both kinds of changes deserve some deep acknowledgement and reflection in a way that brings proper closure to what was, brings the focus to the present and empowers one with the fuel to move forward without fear.

There are those who abuse Rites of Passage also for their own nefarious ends. They understand the significance of numbers, symbols, archetypes and the subconscious and use these to manipulate instead of empower during a major transition. Ultimately, over some stretch of time those who engage in “Black Magic” find themselves bound by their own spells.

Being disinterested, traumatized or even “too busy” to include some kind of Rite of Passage which could be as simple as getting the help needed to move onward often means that something desperately needs to be honored in order for progress to be made. For those who have a strong aversion to religious, spiritual or what they consider to be New Age terms, finding any way to give something proper credit as a transition is being made will suffice and still do wonders that may enhance overall wellbeing, happiness and productivity.

One can be the person who always feel as though things are happening to them, such as through loss and misfortune. Conversely one can be the kind of person who consciously engages with change and therefore effects their own environment in profound ways. In this instance, change becomes transformaiton.

Major changes are inevitable. What we do with these changes is what makes each of us who we are.

Numerology for 2017

The close of one year and the beginning of a new one is always filled with great energy and anticipation and in some cases quite a bit of dread and anxiety. Numerology can help to increase our understanding of this time period and to gain maximum benefit from changes taking place.

In addition to the obvious ones, there are occult reasons why the last day of the year and the first day of the new year are so potent and appropriate for setting goals. December 31st corresponds to the Joker card of the Destiny system, which represents limitless possibilities and January 1st corresponds to the King of Spades – the card of Mastery on all levels. No other days share these primary card influences.

Numerology & Astrological “Predictions” for 2017

2017 rounds up to a Ten before it is further reduced to a One. It works like this: 2 + 0 + 1 + 7 = 10 and 1 + 0 = 1. Most numerologists will refer to 2017 as a One year, but it does include the Ten vibration which I explain more about in the CD “10 Tips to Thriving in 2017. This 2 CD set (also available as an MP3) is a 2 hour talk with Dailey Little and offers a detailed analysis of themes and solutions around 2017.

Both the One and the Ten correspond to initiative, change of direction and high levels of ambition. The 10th Major Arcana card of the Tarot is The Wheel of Fortune. This card reflects a turning point and the very concept of time itself. It indicates movement and huge strokes of what may be called “luck” for better or worse.

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The 1st Major Arcana card is the Magician which relates to New Beginnings, the power of words in manifestation, thought patterns and consciousness itself. With this influence 2017 will be a year to break thought patterns and fears that keep us tied down, immobile or limited in expression. It will highlight new ideas, originality, individuality and leadership. This is truly the beginning of a major new cycle on the Earth and many new kinds of inventions will be brought forth throughout the year.

Due to Mercury’s influence in the Magician card all forms of communication will become very important in 2017. Media, transportation, speeches, intimate conversations and even telepathy are included in this. Information in general will become more readily available (yes, even more so than it already has been with the Internet!) and not all of this info will be new. In fact much of the information being released will be old but the fact that it is finally being released represents a new dawn for humanity in which a huge veil of ignorance will be lifted. That is my hope and prayer.

In 2017, I foresee that complex illusions will be sharply pierced to reveal many hidden dimensions of both the sacred and the profane. We might as well consider this year the magic wand that breaks a very long spell. There may not be “full disclosure” yet but there will possibly be far more than any of us have seen in this lifetime. The build-up to America’s Pluto return has already begun and will hit its apex in 2020. We have already seen and can expect even more bizarre twists of fate with this in political scandals. There are things going on in corrupt government that sorely need to be exposed. This idea that what we don’t know can’t hurt us will be fiercely argued in different ways by people from all walks of life. Soon enough, hidden Truth will no longer be suppressed and the global elite will no longer be able to control the amount of videos and evidence of their crimes being witnessed. As a result, there will be more crime scene busts and more child rescues, THANK GOD!!!

There is so much that needs attention and healing and sadly, these things probably won’t all be addressed in the year ahead. However, my hunch is that the ball will get rolling in those directions. Because a rising number of people are dissatisfied with current rules and regulations and are upset with what they are learning about their appointed leaders, they will probably begin to turn yet again toward grassroots endeavors and simplifying what has become the extremely distracting modern lifestyle. Maybe more will even begin to turn within.

The number One year highlights our Sovereignty and more will be encouraged to strike out on their own, speak their mind and to do something new simply because it’s meaningful, not because their friends think it’s cool. Doing things out habit, desperation or obligation just won’t cut it in 2017. In this year it will become increasingly evident that energy and thoughts are where actions and manifestations begin. Willpower, courage, creativity and determination are all hallmarks of a One/Ten/Magician/Wheel of Fortune year.

Talent is another keyword for 2017. The Ones and Tens are both all about it. Talents are many with these vibrations so more of us will be inspired to put ours to good use! There are times to focus on just one or two things and times to do a lot. This will be a year in favor of doing a lot of different things in general.

2016 Reflections

2016 was a #9 year from the numerological perspective. Nine relates to the Hermit card of the Major Arcana. This past year highlighted endings, death, struggle and disappointment. It also brought completion in many areas, raised ideals and societal breakthroughs that even though painful and chaotic have been necessary to the awakening of humanity at large. There were several heavy blows and a great deal of fear and confusion relevant to Saturn’s square to Neptune. Rare opportunities for deeper understanding, forgiveness and spiritual release also arose during 2016. If we made the best that we possibly could during all of the hardships and loss, then 2017 will certainly bring about some much needed change for the better.

Anxiety Reduction during Turbulence

It becomes very difficult to be productive and solve problems in the state of anxiety, and yet this is the state most Americans live in whether they realize it or not. With the upcoming election in the U.S. and relentless stream of toxicity being pumped out from the media, there is a lot of anxiety being spread like wildfire. In general a lot of pain and suffering has always gone both noticed and unnoticed in our world, but it seems more people know what’s going on now than ever before, and it’s frightening as hell for them.

One of the things I learned in the battle with my greatest enemy (myself) in my very long struggle to overcome autoimmune illness, trauma and debility was that if I really paid attention to what my anxiety was telling me – if I somehow managed to push through layers of resistance in the forms of the menacing grip of heart-palpitations, constant nightmare and failing knees into that core space of what was truly going on…something amazing happened. I would reach a point of stillness. The searing pains in my body would cease, my heart rate would slow down, and I would become aware, not just of myself, but of everything around me in such a way that did not elicit reactions of fear and loathing. In this space, solutions would appear in my mind’s eye that were previously unavailable to me.

Sometimes this happened spontaneously but I wanted to figure out how to pull up this type of stillness anywhere at any time. And I won’t lie. It took me a very long time and lots of practice to acquire this skill, with many props, tools, meditations, and supplements along the way. However, I eventually came to the realization that I didn’t need the tools or supplements anymore (at least not on a regular basis) because whatever power I attributed to those things were already inside me, just as it is within all of us.


Here are 5 things I learned how to do when anxiety began to get the better of me. Whether the anxiety you feel is severe, mild, or free-floating, these suggestions will be relevant to your situation in some way and may help to achieve equanimity. There are many more things and activities that address anxiety but this is a simple list of actions that can produce quick results:

  • Just pause – just stop whatever you’re doing for at least 2-5 minutes to observe your thoughts and breathing patterns without struggling to control them.
  • Take several slow deep breaths, allowing the abdomen to naturally rise and fall.
  • Simplify – simplify whatever you can afford to simplify right now whether it’s your thoughts, your living room, diet, schedule, any and all levels of sensory intake. Sign off from Facebook!
  • Stay hydrated, as dehydration can exacerbate tension and anxiety. Warm water or non-caffeinated teas and beverages are best.
  • Reach for a source of genuine affection, whether it’s a pet, lover, friend, or nature – whatever warms your heart, raises oxytocin, and reminds you that you are alive and loved, and that you are capable of loving.

Some situations are more serious and threatening than others, generating a nearly unavoidable kind of anxiety. However, the power to remain calm is always within. It is not awareness alone that enables one to achieve equanimity, but a certain kind of balance between openness and firmness. It is being open to life and information, but firm enough to know when to draw a boundary. It is a kind of discernment which eventually traces inward to the very worth of the Self.

Holistic Counseling vs. Predictive Readings

painting by Stanley Mouse
painting by Stanley Mouse

This topic is a vast one that I won’t even attempt to cover in a single blog post, but it is one that I would like to share some thoughts about. There are many types of readings for many types of people, two of the most widely practiced being Tarot and Astrology. Readings can be done for entertainment or for serious counsel. Some readings focus on the timing of events, others upon current circumstances or abstract notions.

A reading is a rather intimate encounter with someone, whether or psychic or not, who has the potential to help or hinder the person who seeks guidance. In most cases a reading is best given upon request rather than imposed, and when the person who receives is capable of taking the information they are given and using it responsibility, weeding out the not-useful from the useful and actually applying some effort to change things they have the ability to change with their thoughts and actions.

Just as a person gets the most out of a visit to a doctor or healer by being prepared with issues or questions and the willingness to make adjustments in their life, a person gets the most out of a visit to a reader when approached with this sort of attitude. Check out the book The Timeless Counselor  by June Ahern for some great tips on how to approach a reader of your choice and get the most out of a reading.

One would do well to achieve a certain level of discernment in choosing a reader that they feel compatible with, and not to divulge their secrets to or seek advice from any glamorous reader or charlatan who claims to read the future or locate one’s soul mate. I’ve met plenty of good and bad readers out there, and over time I have mostly realized what not to do in a reading. I have observed words that I found to be hurtful, pointless, and offbase by quite a few. Some readers I’ve met are absolutely amazing, and I’ve had the fortune of considering a few of them friends.

See…words are often a key aspect of readings, and they have the power to manifest things, sometimes very rapidly. A reading can be an act of creation in some cases if the person receiving is very open to suggestion. With this knowledge, a reader carries a very great responsibility in their delivery of certain key words and interpretations of perceived reality.

I do not consider myself a “fortune teller” by any means, but a growing number of people have come back to me during the past couple of years expressing that the readings I gave them proved to be highly accurate in terms of life circumstances and outcomes of situations they previously struggled with. I have heard things like “Exactly what you said would happen happened, exactly when you said it would!”

I don’t advertize as a predictive astrologer or reader, but a major part of what I do is observe the direction of energy currents and offer solution-oriented ideas based on this. My disclaimer is that I am never 100% correct (nor is any other reader) and if someone does not like the direction things are taking, there are usually things that can be done to prevent or change them.

Just as it can be far more useful for a healing practitioner to take the whole person into consideration rather than zero in on just one body part, it can be hugely effective to take the whole person into consideration during a reading and not just one part of a person or what is visible and obvious (DUH!). This means taking into consideration body, mind, and spirit, past, present, future, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, or whatever else decides to make itself known, and to reflect these things back to someone in a clear, non-biased, compassionate way. It’s up to each person to do with the information what they choose, and as a reader I would rather help to influence someone in a positive and empowering way rather than instill a fear in them of what will happen if they don’t do the “right thing”, whatever that is. Ultimately, that must be decided upon by the querent.

Lastly, I don’t say “never” and I don’t say “definitely” in a private reading context (at least I make it a point not to) because these words tend to be frightening for most people – the opposite of empowering. Contrary to popular belief, this is not “sugar-coating” or “leaving things out”. This is what I call respect for a person’s ability to make up their own mind and carve their own destiny.

All of that being said, it’s that time of year again as the holidays approach and things get even crazier than they are for a lot of us…so I offer more reading Specials for those who are seeking for some clarity and a bit of peace of mind. From now until October 31st I am offering 25% off of 1 hour readings. Gift certificates are also available. You can contact me via blog or email