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There are as many forms of psychic attack as there are personality types in this world. One of them is the famous “guilt trip” in which a person takes out their frustrations on another person who failed to meet their egoic and usually childish demands. Everyone has experienced being either on the receiving end or the giving end of a guilt trip. Many have experienced both.

An example of how a guilt trip might play out is the following scenario:

A widowed mother gets used to her 38 year old son swinging by on Saturdays to bring her food, mow the lawn, walk the dog, and fix whatever things have fallen apart in the house. One Saturday he gets called to an important business meeting. He calls her that morning to explain that he won’t be able to make it this time and apologizes that he won’t be making it. She is very displeased and in a whiny tone she accuses him of not letting her know much sooner that he wouldn’t be able to make it, because she was planning a huge meal and wanted to introduce her to one of her friends that day. He had no idea about what he would be missing, but he did in all fairness call her as soon as he knew about his change of plans. He goes to the meeting, feeling queasy the whole time, with the weight of guilt upon his shoulders. He replays the conversation that was had over and over like a broken record inside his head, questioning his own morality. He wants to leave the meeting early so he can placate his mother, but simultaneously feels anxious and afraid of what kinds of things she will say. She pretends to be very hurt while holding a grudge and insinuating that he was very inconsiderate to her and that his actions threw her whole entire schedule off. She has taken zero responsibility for her frustrations, and obviously has come to take his services for granted, as though he should feel obligated to do such things for her. In his tension and anxiety he comes up with another excuse to avoid her the following Saturday and the guilt trips intensify via telephone messages. He feels like a horrible son, but at the same time a bit relieved. She brews with toxic anger and pushes him away for awhile… until he falls back into her trap.

There are of course a multitude of ways that guilt trips can be laid. People lay guilt trips according to their own temperaments. A guilt trip can come from a person of nearly any age, race or gender. It can be subtle and difficult to identify or or outright obnoxious.

Types of Guilt Trips

  • The “Silent Treatment”
  • Playing the strong victim – crying, whining, complaining
  • The passive aggressive guilt trip – it was all a set-up from the start
  • Anger, insults, accusations
  • Emotional blackmail (leads to verbal abuse or physical violence) – the vengeful guilt trip
  • Sometimes all of the above, but in stages, not necessarily in order

Although guilt itself serves a specific function in the human psyche it can also undermine one’s confidence, energy levels with the ability to focus and make rational decisions. One major problem with guilt is that the people who have done the most harm tend to have the least amount of it, if they have any at all. The other portion of the population suffers enormously with the burden of guilt looming in their subconscious that they have internalized from parents and other adults and caretakers from a very young age. Some people learned early on how to toy with other people’s guilt reflexes in order to manipulate them. Those are the people you need to watch out for.

People are not just guilt tripped by individuals but in some cases by their general community or by the country they were born in. Remember, “The majority is not always right.”

In order to defend yourself against a guilt trip you first need to understand what and how another person is targeting your weaknesses. They know you well enough to know what your triggers are and where you feel inadequate. They know if you feel like you owe them something and they will continuously tug on the cord they have hooked into you. You may or may not actually owe them something but this should be clarified as soon as possible. If you do owe, then pay them off immediately and cut the cord that exists between you. If you don’t, then cut the cord. Yes that is easier said than done. Here are suggestions for doing so.

Tell them you are done interacting with them, or that you are taking a long break. Don’t bother to explain why because they will only use your explanations against you. Trying to reason with a person who is in the mode of doling out a guilt trip is like trying to reason with a drunk person.

If they are aggressive and won’t take no for an answer block their number. If they intrude upon your living and working environment notify them that if they do it again you will file a restraining order. If they cross that boundary again, follow through with your word. Do not make this statement if you don’t intend to follow through! Your hollow threats will be used against you.

Take a long bath or shower yourself. Light a candle and some incense. Listen to your favorite album.

Take a vibrational flower essence of Black Cohosh for releasing toxic people from your life.

Hold, wear or place Turquoise, Aquamarine, Amazonite and other stones with similar blue-green colors in your environment. They can help you speak your truth and protect you from the lies and accusations of others.

Defending yourself is especially tricky when the person who guilt trips you is your spouse or other close relative. It may not be appropriate to just eliminate that person from your life altogether but it’s important to establish healthy boundaries in your relationships to these people. There is no substitute for knowing your own psychology well enough to control your reactions and steer your own course. Discrimination is key.

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Scorpio season is known as the “scariest” if not most sensitive and emotionally charged time of year. It rules the Tarot card Death, which symbolizes closure, irrevocable change and transformation, sometimes actual physical death.

Death is a certain point or phase that has been reached on the Fool’s journey of self-discovery that is represented by both Tarot cards and the Zodiac. He or she suddenly experiences a mysterious emptiness. There may be overwhelming feelings of sadness for known or unknown reasons. Within view is a skeleton on a white horse, and a rising sun in the distance. This figure of death is a messenger of what has been, what is and what is yet to come. Steps cannot be skipped. Grief must be processed before moving on. All that is certain is that something new will eventually be born out of the old.

                                     Death

Death can mean so many things and there is a reason why death often causes people to think more of life itself. As people brush close to death or experience the loss of something or someone they held dear they may reach deeper in their heart or mind for meaning. When there is loss there is gain – as the saying goes when one door another one opens. There is no birth without death or death without birth. They are interlinked. For this reason Scorpio is associated with both death and sex. Sex is what brings forth new life. 

In any case, the end of a specific phase of life has been reached and must be acknowledged. Ancient ones honored such endings with rites of passage. It can be helpful in this modern day to recreate rituals that help us to psychologically and physically make the shift from one way of life to another, weather the shift relates to age, relationships, livelihood or other circumstances. My own shift is recently having relocated from America to the Netherlands. Even if this doesn’t become my permanent home, it represents the end of a chapter of life, in no uncertain terms.

Flower Essences to Support Radical Change

There are several flower essences that can help to emotionally, mentally, and spiritually make life altering shifts and to cope with deep loss and even death itself. These are just a few that may be useful during this time.

  • Angel’s Trumpet – This is a flower essence that assists making conscious shifts between the worlds. It can be of support during major life transitions. It can also be a source of comfort during the time of death.
  • Borage – Borage essence brings courage and joy to the heart. It may be especially helpful when there is impending death of a pet or loved one, or even immediately after the loss has occurred. It may serve as an emotional balm, gently softening the harsh stab of loss and grief.
  • Walnut – the Bach flower remedy that is most often taken to promote mental stability right before, during and after home or work relocations, divorce and break-ups, and the death of loved ones.

Scorpio Transits

The Sun enters Scorpio on October 23rd with a Full Moon in its opposite sign Taurus to follow on the 24th. Adding to the intensity of this year’s Scorpio season are the transits of a Retrograde Venus and Jupiter’s final degrees in this sign. These are further heightened now by Mercury also in Scorpio, soon to enter a Retrograde pre-shadow phase (Retrograde from November 17th until December 6th) in which it will move into Sagittarius and later back into Scorpio.

Venus Retrograde in Scorpio is dredging up many buried emotions, revealing the hidden motives or inner workings of people and things while causing tremendous introspection and reevaluation within the contexts of close interpersonal relationships. This is an incredibly heart wrenching time for some. Difficulties may not necessarily lie with significant others but the theme of revisiting personal values is likely to be present in partnerships. Issues around trust could spring up with just about anyone for any reason. Another area of great concern or focus could revolve around finances.

Jupiter has been in Scorpio since October 10th of 2017 and will complete this transit by November 8th. For the past twelve months many of us have been provided with ample space and experiences that have supported us in truly recognizing what’s working and not working in our lives. The whos and hows of deep betrayal both on micro and macro levels have become painfully obvious. At the same time we’ve been offered some amazing tools, resources, and information to make corrections and upgrades. Jupiter at the tail end of this trek through Scorpio indicates there is one last piece of the old life yet to leave behind before we can take bold actions moving forward. It may be the last piece but it’s not the least important. It may actually be the most huge and troublesome thing we missed earlier even though it was right in front of us the whole time. This awkward thing, whether real or symbolic, is so old that we’ve become quite accustomed to lugging it around. It’s time to ditch that shit.

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To anyone who purchases a copy of my book Flower Spirit Medicine I am offering a free, personalized astrological Flower Essence & Gemstone report emailed to you, along with a mini-consultation. That is, one question answered with a flower essence suggestion.

For an accurate astrological reading the date, city, and time of birth is required. When you place your order, please be sure to email me with your receipt or confirmation number: readingsbyyerevan@gmail.com

This offer is valid now throughout September. 

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Gift idea for friends & family who are interested in both holistic healing and astrology! 🌸 Pre-order a Flower Spirit Medicine book directly from me or through Lulu.com and receive a free Flower Essence & Gem report based on your natal chart along with a decorative chart wheel sent by email (birth info must be provided for an accurate chart). Offer valid until December 1st.

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Every time Mercury appears to be moving in reverse there are many aspects of life that seem to be also. There is often this random stream of chaos: a dish cracks, a computer crashes, a tire goes flat, someone thought you said dumbass when you said alas, a new pair of pants don’t fit, and so on and on. It’s time to slow down – just a wee bit – and do a little bit of review.

The house that Mercury is transiting in your own birth chart and any planets being “aspected” will say more about how Mercury Retrograde is affecting you specifically.

With Mercury Retrograde in Virgo from August 30th until September 21st there is a focus on improving aspects of what we have already been building upon, healing, or manifesting. It is also of great assistance in releasing old items, beliefs, or toxins.

photo by Alexandre Guimont

Buried emotions might rise to the surface causing depression or a flood of thoughts and worries could make it difficult to fall asleep at night. Here are three Bach Flower Essences that might be particularly helpful during the next few weeks while Mercury is Retrograde in Virgo.

Crab Apple

This is the flower to help quell an obsessive concern for imperfections and impurities. Nitpicking and excessive criticism so often experienced when Virgo is stressed in some way can be eased with this essence. The desire to be perfect or do a perfect job at something can erode one’s confidence in the long run. When one feels they are not good enough, or they are embarrassed because of a blemish, or experiencing germophobia, Crab Apple helps gain a healthier perspective and fosters self-acceptance. Psychosomatic illness and certain allergies often develop in those who loathe their bodies or appearance in some way. Crab Apple is a great essence for those who feel that the physical body is unclean no matter how much they bathe. This includes a religious shame of sexuality. This flower essence can energetically enhance many types of detoxification programs and diets, including fasting. When there are serious questions about what is pure, moral and “good”, Crab Apple can facilitate clarity.

Pine

The essence of Pine is indicated for use when there is an inability to forgive oneself or to accept one’s human nature. Although regret may sometimes be useful to a certain degree it can easily become so exaggerated than one feels a lack of motivation to better themselves or even get out of bed in the morning. It can turn into self-deprecation, which does not help anyone. We all make mistakes! That’s part of life on the Earth plane. Pine addresses the kind of shame that makes it very difficult to make any progress. If such shame is an ongoing or crippling issue for someone it may work very well together with Crab Apple to restore ones sense of self worth and original innocence. Pine is a tree that represents both purity and equanimity. Its appearance, fragrance and energetic imprint can help us to become more objective about our shortcomings and to understand how we may better ourselves with a compassionate awareness instead of judgment and the burden of guilt.

White Chestnut

White Chestnut is the flower essence for the mind that never quits. It just gets more lit the later it gets at night. There are as many reasons for mental agitation as there are personalities. Most will agree that having an overactive mind is unpleasant and exhausting. One could be concerned with the completion of a project that requires a lot of mental energy, thus making it difficult to wind down at the end of a very stimulating day. Another person could fear losing their job, health or relationship which causes them to feel that they are constantly living on the edge with their minds replaying various scenarios of the worst that could happen. The events of the day, week, or month could be repeatedly analyzed and lead to extreme headaches and insomnia. This type of nervous energy can also wreak havoc on the digestive system and immunity. White Chestnut helps to reroute congested mental energy from the higher chakras to the rest of the body or areas where it might be needed. When there is more clarity and calmness within the mind, the voice of the Inner Self can more easily be heard and heeded.

Free Flower Essence Report and other goods!

From now until September 22nd, I am offering a free flower essence report (usually priced at $5.00 Flower Essences) along with any reading with the chance to win a free copy of my new ebook Flower Spirit Medicine. I will be doing a name draw on the Equinox of the 22nd. Anyone who voices their interest is eligible for the chance to receive a free copy of the ebook.

In addition, a free custom essence blend and future 30 minute reading will be provided to the participant who shares the most fabulous testimonial about their experience receiving a reading or flower essence blend from me! Anyone who submits a testimonial may receive a free mini flower/numerological/ or basic natal report as an appreciation for their time 😀

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Hello flower enthusiasts, energy healers, and folk in search of unique healing methods! Here is something that I have been working on since Spring. It is my very first ebook (about how to use and produce your own unique vibrational flower remedies!)

This is a guidebook for those wishing to learn the art of attuning to nature spirits, how to make their own flower essences, and it  is a great reference book containing essences for various troubling issues. Included is a chapter on flower essences as they relate to astrology.

A print version will be available for purchase in October 2016.

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